Dating in London: Stories, Advice and Disasters!

Dating 101: Women love free drinks

2010-09-06T13:33:00.001Z

The secret to success with the opposite sex is confidence. Or in some cases, bare-faced smugness. This is more important than ever when you aren’t blessed with the torso of Brad Pitt and the finances of David Beckham.

They say the opposite sense like a good sense of humour, but more importantly than that, they like a man who is sure of himself. An example of self-confidence that has always worked for this writer is the old ‘free drinks’ approach.

Now traditionally a man saddles alongside a girl at a bar, engages in awful small talk for a few minutes, and then offers to buy her a drink. However this often depends on the girl being by herself in a bar or a club– which they very rarely are.

Instead break the ice immediately by going straight up to a group of ladies and enquiring whether they’d be interested in a round of free drinks. This writer has never met a group of girls that don’t appreciate a free round of vodka and cokes and if you are with mates, they’ll appreciate the ballsiness of your move as well as the sudden presence of female company.

All in one swift move, you have displayed self-confidence, the fact that you are possibly the ‘alpha’ in your group of friends (even though you might not be) and the fact that you aren’t cheap (which even if you are, they are not to know for a while–.).

Once the drinks are bought, conversation follows naturally and before you know it, you are all sat down enjoying the rest of the evening and you have sealed your reputation as a smooth, confident ladies’ man.

A friendly tip: Do not use this on a group of more than four girls. You quickly find your funds for the evening diminish before you can even glance at your garmin running watch again...

Avoid These Mistakes When Internet Dating

2010-08-31T08:36:00.000Z

The Internet offers many single persons great opportunity because from the comfort of your own home you may meet people from all over the world. Internet dating sites are now very popular, and there is a match for everybody out there if you listen to what many of they promise users. However, you must be careful and take a few cautionary measures, and avoid exposing yourself and personal details to those who will harm you in one way or another.

Especially during the first few conversations with the respective person, do not mention your address, your family status, your income and other such aspects about yourself and your life that a stranger should not know about. Let some time pass, have multiple conversations online, even video chatting, just be careful with the details.

If you take online dating seriously, and you truly want to find the perfect match, then you should avoid falling into the other extreme: lying. This, is a common issue among people who chat online, because they have the opportunity of becoming who they want and of looking how they wish by posting a fake photo. You should try to present yourself in a balanced manner, not telling the whole truth regarding your personal details, but also staying away from major lies. It is not beneficial, and you will definitely not be able to find yourself the partner of your dreams.

Have several chat sessions before you actually give out your phone number. You can easily wake up being harassed by people whose sole target is to steal personal information and harm you. If the person you chat with is patient enough, and can wait even for weeks until you switch numbers, he/she has probably a genuine interest in you. If, on the other hand, the person is very impatient to find out your address, phone number and other personal details, you should most likely look elsewhere for an eventual partner. These are very simple rules and codes of safety you should always remember when you are about to enter an adult dating site.

But do get out their and do it. These warning are just precautions, it really is a fantastic way to meet people rather than the randomness of bar or sitting on your

used sofa hoping the next pizza delivery person is female. Never has is been easier to find the exact person, who shares your interests.

Dating In London When You're New To London...

2010-08-06T16:16:00.001Z

Imagine the scene: you have never been to London before and in your mind is the idea, no, the entirely plausible dream, that finding a date will be simple and easy. After all, London is enormous isn’t it? How hard can it be to find someone? Surely at every turn there could be a potential date waiting to go out with you, right?

Well...yes, in theory you would be right. But then again, in theory it should be easy to find your way around London if you’ve never been before but...well, you get the picture. There are almost more people in one place in London than there are grains of sand in one place in various parts of Britain, too, so you would think that would improve your chances. But let’s just slow down and think about this now...this is London we are talking about, so you may have to refine your tactics slightly.

One of the major problems with finding a date in London is that a lot of people in London, purely out of conditioning, are in a world of their own and don’t like talking to strangers (anyone who is not them, a relation, or someone they know quite well). That’s not to say they might not look at you and think You look nice, it’s more that it’s extremely unlikely they are going to say it out loud. As anyone knows, getting a smile from someone on a tube is worthy of an Olympic medal, so with that in mind you can imagine that actually speaking to someone about anything remotely date-related – ask someone on the tube for directions and you’ll see just how hard it is to get someone to speak to you in any capacity – is potentially about as likely as losing weight on a diet of pizza and chocolate and beer.

The best thing you can do is be brave about it. You may find that some people are reluctant to talk, but who knows? You may also find that you meet that certain special someone.

Another way to improve your chances is to look online. There are several dating / friends websites other than Facebook which provide Londoners and people who are new to London with ways of meeting potential dates and friends in a pleasant and safe environment.And who knows, a couples trip to chalets val d isere may be on the cards for you Londoners yet...

Dating Tips For Men - Keeping That Girl

2010-08-02T08:46:00.001Z

Most men do not find it hard to meet women and begin dating them. The problem is that once they reel them in, they can’t seem to keep them. This is usually due to the man acting too clingy or desperate for her and she then becomes bored. There are a few rules to dating that every man should follow to not only find that date, but keep her interested.

Learn how to become an attentive listener. Nothing ruins a relationship than someone not listening to what the other person is saying. The key to this is to really zone in on what she is saying and give her frequent head nods or verbal sounds that lets her know you are getting what she is saying. Ask her questions or have her elaborate on cetain things she has said to show your interest in her words. Lean in slightly when listening to show you are captivated with what she is saying.

Show her you are confident in yourself. This is not the same as having lots of money or power or because you have a job which enables you to play with medical supplies all day. Just act confident in yourself by smiling, speaking up and by doing things a little out of the ordinary.

Prepare for your dates by giving yourself the proper grooming. Give yourself a clean shave and add a nice smelling cologne. Just as important as your own looks, so is your car and apartment. Make sure that both are tidy and smelling good.

Give her a slight challenge. Do not make yourself too available for her. Break a date every once in a while. Do not answer your phone every time she calls or go out and make plans with your friends instead of her. Being too available and clingy turns a women off.

These are just some of the things you can do to not only find a date, but keep her interested in you and always wanting more.

Dating for Men

2010-07-29T16:29:00.001Z

Dating is very important if you want to have a relationship with any girl. Yes, you cannot expect every girl you date to fall in love with you and enter into a relationship with full commitment. So what is it that you can do to make the girls stand up and notice you?

The first things you need to do are look into the mirror objectively and take stock of your appearance with an impartial and critical eye. Make sure you look your best when you are on a date. It is really worth spending some time and money in grooming your self in the best possible way. Do not overdo your dressing with heavy perfume and gaudy clothes. And I am definately not saying to go out and book skin peels or anything drastic, just take care to appear elegant and smart with a subtle perfume to accentuate the mood of the evening. Make it obvious to the girl that you have taken some trouble in dressing up for her and she would definitely be flattered.

Be courteous without appearing overbearing. Mind your manners at all times. Do not make conversation that is one sided and dominating. Also make sure that you listen to what is being said by the girl and respond by asking questions that displays your interest. Look at her in the eye when you are talking or listening to her. Do not make her feel as if you are mentally undressing her.

You must know by now from your experiences in dating that most women play hard to get. Take this as a good sign because it shows that she cares one way or the other. This only adds an element of excitement to the whole affair. Take this as a challenge and use your wits and intelligence to melt her reserves. Play it cool and do not let her see that you are disconcerted or put out in any way. You could also counter this by playing hard to get her. If she is really interested she would surely come after you.

It would definitely help having some idea about what women like to talk about and what they generally like or dislike.

A serial dater is constantly looking for a new girl to date and gets tired or bored very easily. This actually reflects the mental makeup of such a person. In the long run this could become addictive and the habit could be hard to get rid of. The person has no chance of establishing a serious relationship with anybody because he is constantly on the move. This could also reflect his unreliability and girls would hesitate to go out on a date with such a person. This could undermine the popularity of the guy as well.

If You Are A Shy Girl: Here Are Some Flirting Tips

2010-07-27T11:02:00.001Z

For most British young girls, the very thought of flirting with guys evokes a series of thoughts into motion. If you are enveloped by the fear that you will never get the guy you love or have a crush on, fear no more. Sometimes, shyness can be the strongest weapon for a girl.

Here are 5 simple steps for the girls to show their charm and bring down the wickets of the guys-

1. You must firstly master the art of smiling. Every article or book on flirting suggests that you must always welcome the opposite sex with an attractive and enchanting smile. This is one of the safest and friendliest ways of approaching a friend, stranger or colleagues.

2. When you meet a stranger, you must ensure that you deliver something interesting rather than bother about creating impressions. A crowd of extroverts can be really deafening, but being serene and bold is like adding pepper to a bland dish.

3. Taking the scholar’s approach is a necessity for all the shy girls, despite it sounding odd. An immediate invitation may be exciting for you, but a well in advance proposal gives you sufficient time for preparation. If the guy you are flirting with shares your hobbies, the conversation is going to hit off successfully. In case you are touching new grounds, let the boy speak- he enjoys doing so.

4. You must dress yourself in the best manner possible. There is no need to go for zero figures and stuff, just make sure you present your most attractive version. There are some great womens clothing websites out there that will help you find the best possible clothing for your body type. Grooming is a must for successful flirting.

5. You must possess the confidence while flirting. It is unusual for the girls to approach first; it’s the work of the guys. Your boldness will get the guy wanting you and that will actually be your triumph.

The percentage secret to keeping a girl!

2010-07-20T08:40:00.001Z

Yeah we all know getting a girl can be hard. The biggest attractor to getting a girl is, and has always been, confidence.

The issue is often keeping that girl and not only keeping her but making sure you are the one wearing the trousers. This isn’t about power in the relationship however, oh no, it is about keeping her interested in you.

This is where you need to start thinking percentage investment and where we need to think about cars.

Pick a car, it matters not so much which, the Ford Focus STI will do. Fast, fun and frenetic. You just spent your annual salary on one and trust me that baby is getting looked after like she is a princess. Or maybe your rich uncle bought you it and told you to have fun. So it gets dirty and the alloys get scratched... hey who cares it was free right?

And there is the point. Same car but one of them you invested in and the other you got given.

Now let us transpose that to your new girlfriend. You’re the car she is the driver. You hand yourself over for free, make yourself available all the time, pay for everything, she has full access to your Credit Card APR etc, hmmm suddenly she is not so concerned whether you are avilable Friday or not. However if you make her invest in you then suddenly you will find the love and affection coming thick and fast.

So how exactly to do that?

You tried not answering that call? Maybe Friday you can’t make it as you have a night out with the guys? You’d absolutley love to go to the cinema Wednesday but you have a Thai boxing lesson. In a nutshell... let them do the work. Don’t be an idiot about it but just ensure the balance of the investment in the relationship is 60:40 in your favour and you’ll suddenly find the days of high maintenance girlfriends are behind you.

Have fun!

Make sure he isn't just pretending to be your prince charming

2010-06-22T09:32:00.001Z

Dating is one of the toughest things we do in life. Women usually date with the expectation of finding the man of her dreams. She goes on the first date and believes that this truly may be her last first date, preparing for it is a mission with 54% of UK women buying a new outfit on a first date, and 15% even going and getting a bikini wax (I would recommend laser hair removal sheffield for that one). Women want so badly to fall in love that they sometimes overlook bad qualities because they are so blinded by the fascination of love. They want to have the endings that they have seen over and over again in the movies. They all want their happily ever after. Life is not truly like that.

There are so many men that are only out for one thing that it can sometimes be hard to sift through all of the scum. Some men are great actors and put on amazing fronts to gain a woman’s trust. They may date you for a long time filling your head with false hopes and dreams of a future. These men think of women as quests instead of people. They can somehow separate themselves from having feelings about the woman. They see the woman as an object or prize not as a person. These men will eventually give up on the chase if they do not succeed over time.

They will be complete and total gentleman one day and turn into jerks the next. You will be very relieved when you find out that you do not fall for one of these loathsome scumbags. If you do fall prey to them you will feel shame and guilt. It happens to the best women. Eventually we all fall for some guy that makes us believe we really are special to him and that we are the woman of his dreams when really we are nothing more than a quest he wants to conquer. These men will make finding the perfect man for you even more amazing.

4 Romantic London Dates

2010-06-02T14:08:00.001Z

Whether you are on a first date or out with the missus for your thirtieth wedding anniversary, there is no need to go away and book expensive ski chalets, London provides many romantic locations for that perfect date. Here are the four best romantic places in London for a date.

1. Gothic Graveyards. It may seem strange, but the Victorian graveyards in London are some of the most romantic and peaceful places around. Known for its ornate mausoleums and famous gravesites (Douglas Adams rests here), the Highgate Cemetery is a great place for a romantic walk. But make sure your date isn’t frightened easily as graveyards do carry a certain horror element along with them. But this should not deter you; the history and quiet nature of graveyards are a great way to set up a date.

2. Ice skating has always been seen as a great way to romance your love, and London provides plenty of outdoor options. The moat around London Tower is a great place in the winter to take your loved one on a slow and peaceful skate through some of London’s most scenic areas.

3. Not much of a skater? How about feeding the squirrels over by the Royal Parks, specifically at St. James Park where the squirrels are so used to people feeding them that they are practically domesticated. Here you will have some wonderful photo opportunities in some beautiful surroundings. This is also a great way to show your sensitive side!

4. Take a walk down the Thames River. It may seem cliché, but nothing is more romantic than a simple night walk down the Thames on a fine summer day. Not only will you have great visuals all around you, but you will also have plenty of things to talk about, whether it is with a new date or waxing nostalgically with your lover of thirty years.

Women want an assertive man

2010-05-19T15:04:00.001Z

When you first start dating it can sometimes be tough. You are wanting to get to know the lady better but aren’t great at the dating scene. You may just need to think before you speak. When you are first dating a woman she is listening to you. She is taking notes in her head of just about any and everything you are saying or asking. Sometimes you may say something that to you may seem simple enough but to her may be a deal breaker. If you try to steer clear of a few topics you should be good to go.

If you are just starting in your dating relationship you need to take charge. Do not ask her where she wants to go or what she wants to do. Make plans. Women like a man who knows what he wants and has plans. Planning a wonderful night can make a big difference. During the evening she will probably ask you many questions and tell you a lot about herself. Try not to sound as though you are bragging, you can tell her what you do, but don’t spend the whole night telling her haw many locum doctors jobs you were offered after med school! If she asks where you live or who you live with but be honest. Do not try to talk it up or go over the top about it. Sometimes less is more and if you are trying to boast what you have you may turn her off. Try to stay away from the topic of ex-boyfriends. Do not ask her how many men she has slept with or really anything sexual at all. This will may you seem like you are a pervert or only interested in having sex with her. She will shut down instantly. Just be yourself and be causal. Try to get to know her and listen to what she is saying. Try to remember what she has said. At the end of the night, if it feels right, kiss her. Don’t ask first, just do it.

Be wise about who you date and marry

2010-05-17T14:23:00.000Z

Dating can sometimes be tricky. Often times we are not ourselves fully for a few months. It may take years before you know the most about someone. You may not every fully know them. There are people out there that are great at putting up a front. They figure out what kind of person you are interested in and then act as though they are like that. Some people are capable of going years or all of their adult lives pretending to be somebody they are not. People pretend to be someone else for many different reasons. Some are out for money. Some are out for other things.

There are people who are only interested in the rich. They will find out everything they can about someone who is wealthy to try to take their money from them. They will go so far as marrying the person and spending much if not all of their lives married to someone they do not love just to get to their money, so that they can afford that big house and designer kitchen accessories they wanted since they were young.

There are other people who are just out for status. They will fake who they are to be able to be around the powerful or famous. They will say whatever they have to say and do whatever they have to do to get to rub noses with them.

Even if you are not rich or famous there are people that may still try to do this to you. If your family has money, power, fame, or even just a business people may use you to get to your family. They may think that by being with you they will one day benefit from any inheritance you may receive.

Do not marry someone until you fully know them. Notice the warning signs of anything out of the ordinary. You need to make sure to protect yourself and your family. Don’t give up on love though. You will be able to find someone who loves you for the person you are not for what you or your family has.

Just be yourself when dating

2010-04-28T15:25:00.001Z

When you are on a first date with someone it important to be yourself. You may not want to lay it all out on the table but you definitely do not want to pretend to be someone that you are not. When dating you need to remember that this is a person that you are hoping to start a relationship with and that eventually could be the person with whom you spend your life. If this person ends up being “the one” they will one day have to see the real you.

When you first get to the restaurant you want to make sure to have good manners. Try to refrain from making any bodily noises other than the unpredictable sneeze. If you do make any uncontrollable noises make sure to excuse yourself. If your date sneezes make sure to say something to them such as bless you. You need to be polite.

When you start talking about your likes and dislikes you need to be honest. If you say that you love going to plays or sports and you do not later on you may be stuck watching a show that you hate or sitting at a stadium being miserable. Also be honest about your hobbies. If you don’t like outdoor activities don’t say that you do. People often have similar interests when they are in a relationship. If you do not have the same interests it may be difficult to enjoy doing activities together.

No matter where you go after dinner still be yourself. If you go dancing and you are not a good dancer just be honest. If you don’t know how to play pool and end up in a pool hall just be honest. You never know what might happen. Maybe your date is an excellent teacher and you will find a new interest. But no matter how well the date goes, even if he’s rich, refrain from jumping into his luxury designer bedding just yet. Trust me, I have made this mistake way too many times!

Are you a woman getting back into the dating scene?

2010-04-15T15:48:00.001Z

If you are a woman getting back in to dating there are a few things you may want to think about. First always make sure that you are safe when going out on a first day. This is especially important if you you met them online and are meeting them in person for the first time. The internet can be a fantastic tool for meeting people and dating as long as you are careful about it. If this is the first time you are meeting them you may want to meet at your destination instead of letting them pick you up.

It is smart as well to let a friend know where you are going and who you are meeting. Most of us girls do this anyway in conversation with our friends. If you get any negative or questionable vibes make sure you just keep things friendly instead of revealing too much about yourself. If you are going out with someone that you have known for a while you should relax and have fun on your date. Make sure that you give them a chance and do not take and preconceived notions in to the date (that’s not to say go ahead and wear your mizuno running shoes, make a bit of effort). Sometimes our long time friends make the best significant other if we give them a chance.

If you have issues with being very chatty when you are nervous then try to be very aware of this. You should give the other person a chance to talk and tell you about themselves. The best thing to remember when going on a first date is that you never get a second chance to make a first impression. Make sure to put your best foot forward. Not only may the person you are out with be your lifetime partner but they could end up being your best friend.

The Best Places in London To go On An Action Date

2010-04-01T14:37:00.000Z

A great alternative to the standard “dinner and a movie” date that have becoming boring and repetitive, is to go on an action date, which has gained in popularity in recent times. It is a great way to offer a unique experience, which is the key to a memorable occasion, and will no doubt allow your date to remember you for some time to come.

Start your date slowly with a nice walk through Hyde Park. This is a great way to have some time to begin casual chit chat, without delving too deep into each other’s personal life. You can get comfortable with each other by means of nice nature walk.

Make your route head towards Serpentine Lake. If the weather allows it, you may want to go for a nice swim; however, if the water is too chilly, stay above water level. A good idea is to rent a row boat and go out into the lake. This way you and your date can have the privacy and quiet atmosphere to get to know each other better. But don’t just row yourself; both of you should row together to add to the fun.

After a good row, walk through Hyde Park to loosen the muscles. A great idea if you are not hungry and don’t want to sit down yet, try heading to the numerous pool halls the surround Hyde Park. Have a few drinks and play a few games to build up your appetite.

For dinner, since you’re in the area, visit Galvin at Windows on the 28^th floor of the Hilton hotel. If you’re up to it, climb all 28 storeys on foot! Avoid the lift.

An action date should be taken if you’re an athletic and fit person. If not, a traditional date is probably a safer bet. If you are an active and athletic couple, an action date is a great way to add spice to any relationship, regardless of the level. Speaking of crazy things with people that you dont know. I have just had a nose at the home page for team building event london that Christine has been working for. I must say that I am quite impressed with it, and I am digging the new pictures, you should all check it out.

4 Reasons Why you Should Keep Your First Date Short

2010-03-22T13:30:00.000Z

First dates are terrifying to some and exhilarating to others. But most will agree, that the first date is the most interesting, either due to a great sense of compatibility or because the date was a complete disaster. Either way, the first date is always memorable.

But one mistake a lot of people make is having a long, marathon first date. This should be avoided if you intend to get the best out of this unique occasion. Here are four reasons why you should keep your first date short.

1. You always act your best. On the first date, you will bring your best game. You will say your best jokes and you’ll keep your date interested. You will share simple details about your lives, such as your family, education, and job. However, the key is to keep it simple and positive without revealing too many details. If you do, you’re getting too personal too quickly. If the date lasts too long, you will inevitably reach more personal topics which should be reserved for the 5^th or 6^th date.

2. Too much fun too soon. You don’t want to give your date a 12 hour marathon on the first date, filled with exciting and romantic events. This will make it harder to top on your next few dates. Ease your date into the relationship by offering some fun, but not too much fun.

3. Leave them wanting more. Like #2, you don’t want them to get too much at once. By leaving them wanting more, you will ensure that they are thinking of you when they go home, and you’ll be thinking of them. Make them crave a second date.

4. Size up your date. A short date will give you a quick look at what he/she has to offer. You will get a good sense of their sense of humour, intelligence, and sex appeal. Don’t go too far in searching for their essence; a short date will allow you to size up your date for future occasions.

So there it is, on the first date withhold the urge to book weekend ski chalet holidays, instead just meet up for a coffee, you may be surprised how great your future dates turn out to be!

Dodgy dates.

2010-03-19T12:17:00.001Z

Having been a single girl in London for a couple of years now, I’ve had my fair share of wierd and wonderful dates ranging from the rude, the bad to the just plain dull. A few months ago I went on a date with a guy who seemed really lovely at first and I thought there was a bit of potential. Ok he was a bit scruffy round the edges and it looked like he hadn’t washed his hair for five months but the inner hippy in me was willing to give it a go! We went for drinks and a really nice curry, and then on to a late night bar. It was only when I put my hand over his top when we were back on my sofa having a kiss that I realised his top had a rip in it. Nothing wrong with that but the rip was being held together by a plastic cocktail stick! Sometimes it’s the little things that can really ruin a moment.

Much worse than my slightly odd hippy experience was a date with a guy I call "textbook boy". He worked in advertising and seemed to have done a degree in half baked pop physcology, but I met him through a friend and found him really funny and lovely so I thought it was actually going somewhere. We had seen each other a few times and it had the potential to turn in to a relationship. Or so I thought. The first time we actually slept together he kept saying my name, but in a really formal was as if he’d read in a textbook that women really loved that because it made them feel valued or something. Eugh! What made it worse was that he called me Alexandra. No one ever calls me that, all my friends call me Alex, literally the only people who call me by my full name are my grandparents which is what I kept thinking, which as you can imagine was enough to put anyone off....

But what I would say is that it’s really good to experience and remember the bad dates, not just so you have something to laugh about over a well deserved pint with your friends but also so you can keep in mind what you don’t want, and therefore what you do.

How does italy skiing contest sound to all of you? Everybody must put your names in, it is for you and a date to go skiing for one week! Lift tickets and accommodation are covered, how great is that?

How to get noticed If You Are Single

2010-03-09T17:01:00.000Z

When you’re single, sometimes it is difficult to have a member of the opposite sex notice you instead of someone else. Many single people find that the hardest part about finding someone new is inability to get seen. Perhaps you have noticed a guy but he hasn’t noticed you back. You have tried to flirt, but he doesn’t notice. You laugh at his jokes, but he just thinks he’s funny. What do you do to get noticed?

The key to getting noticed, whether you’re a man or a woman, is understanding basic social skills. Be honest, respectful, polite, and direct.

Here are some helpful tips to get noticed if you’re single (if you’re married, I refuse to help you get noticed!). First, do you really like this person? Did you see him from across the club and now you want to meet him? If you’ve been attracted to the person for a while, then proceed.

Next, make sure you actually want their attention. If you just want to watch him from across the room, that’s one thing. If you’re infatuated with someone, make sure you want them to come over and talk to you. Don’t make any misleading acts.

Remember, be yourself. Don’t act the way you think they want you to act. Be true to yourself. It’s easier to develop a connection to someone if you’re truthful.

When you’re trying to get noticed, remember to look like you’re having fun. Smile! Nobody is going to notice the quiet person in the corner trying to look interested examining a house plant. Don’t roll your eyes. Don’t purse your lips. Have fun, because most people – men and women – find fun-loving people attractive.

Finally, try to get noticed without looking like you’re trying to get noticed. It is not attractive to be the table dancer, or the loud-talker. Get noticed on the sly. Try to get their attention without being too aggressive.

Women's Dating Tips - How To Land That Perfect Guy

2010-03-08T15:40:00.001Z

Getting dates and landing that perfect guy can be a challenge for some women. This is usually because they lack confidence and self-esteem. The good news is, there are some things you can do to help you get over yourself and get out there in the dating scene.

The first thing you need to do before you get out there is ask yourself what type of guy are you actually looking for. What type of characteristics and attributes do you want him to have? Once you determine this, stick to it when you are out there. Do not lower your standards for the first guy that offers to buy you a drink. It is okay to be a little selective, however, do not get overly picky and dismiss every guy just because he is missing a certain quality. He might have other qualities that are worth your attention.

Be confident with yourself when you are out there. Guys like a woman who is comfortable in her own skin (and I don’t mean skin that goes to Botox Cheshire every week). You can be shy and still be confident. Just put a smile on your face and force yourself to start a conversation. Make eye contact and seem genuinely interested in the guy.

Keep a positive energy about you. Guys like to be around women who know how to have fun. Do not take the night too seriously. Dress hot and style your hair. Add a light spray of perfume. Add some lipstick or lipgloss for lush looking lips. What would you say is your best feature? Is it your legs, breasts or neck? Dress these up a bit so they are noticed.

Also, do not rely on bars and pubs to find your perfect guy. Get yourself out there. You can find a guy in a grocery store, automotive store or even in your local library. So always dress your best and keep that smile on. You will attract a guy to you if you present yourself as confident, single and looking.

Playing The Dating Game

2010-02-24T16:05:00.000Z

The date is an hour away and you’re meeting on the embankment before heading to Soho for a bite to eat; you’re nervous–what are you going to talk about with this incredible girl you’ve been dying to meet with for ages? Here are a few do’s and don’ts that might be worth thinking about and might also help calm the nerves.

1) Don’t worry about the awkward silences that are bound to crop up as you get to know each other in that first half hour! These don’t have to be awkward. If you feel like it’s happening too often then smile and ask a question. Maybe her appearance tells you that she cares about clothes, or something she mentioned earlier might be something she’s actually very happy to talk about.

2) Despite what happens in the movies, unless you actually are a film star, don’t assume she wants the best (or most expensive) house wine; a woman appreciates it when you ask her what she wants. It shows you can be thoughtful. In the eyes of a woman, thoughtful = caring and caring = kind.

3) Is she umming and aaaaing about the menu? Oops–maybe she’s vegetarian and she’s too embarrassed to say. Don’t just sit there! Bring it up. You’d be surprised how an embarrassing moment can lead to many good talking points.

4) Don’t eat noisily! Eating is a personal thing guys! Some women don’t like it when you eat with your mouth full either.

5) Is her hand on the table? Is she smiling and laughing? Refrain from putting your hand near hers but instead reach out and touch her fingers. That way, if she really is interested, you’ll have her wanting more and when you do finally put your hand on the table she’ll giggle with excitement–which is what you want!

Dressing Well for that First Date: What to Wear

2010-02-22T16:46:00.000Z

Your appearance is an important part of your personality. Your appearance is responsible to impress anyone and the impression that you leave in the first meeting is long lasting. If it is the matter of your first date then you should prepare yourself to look your best. Your dress is most important attribute to improve your appearance. The importance of dress cannot be ignored and is equally important for both men and women. So you should dress up well for your first date.

Mostly men overlook this area but some also spend hours to get ready for their first date. Remember, your appearance is one factor responsible for make or break on your first date so don’t underestimate the importance of your dress. Your dress should be washed and ironed properly. You should wear the dress that fit properly and should be neither too tight nor too baggy. You should wear the dress that is neither too old nor too new. Your dress should be hole free and stain free. You should look and feel comfortable in your dress and the dress should also match your age and the date location. Your date cannot be successful if you look too younger or too older than your actual age.

Young people prefer jeans on their first date and they can choose the tops to accompany your jeans. Casual shirt, polo shirt or a t-shirt can be a good choice. If you have an excellent physique that you want to show off then polo shirts are ideal. Jeans should look fit on your body. In cold weather, casual jacket is a good selection. If you have decided to wear trousers then don’t forget to wear belt because a matching belt will provide a finishing touch to your look.

The excellent dress is not only important for men but is also equally important for women. Mostly women are confused as to what dress they should wear on their first date. Every woman wants to look fabulous and charming on first date (but really that is no reason to go so far as to book an appointment at Laser Hair Removal Manchester) and at the same time they don’t want to look provocative or cheap. The dress that women wear should also depend on the location of the date and the type of person they are going to meet on their first date. The casual dress is preferred if you are going to date someone whose age is same as yours. You should wear the dress that is neither too loose nor too tight. Wear long heels only if you do not feel difficult to walk. You should wear only that dress in which you can carry yourself comfortably and confidentially.

The Secret To Success With Women

2010-02-12T17:11:00.001Z

I see hundreds of websites claiming they know how to be successful with women, along with books and e-books. They all claim to offer guaranteed ways to be successful with women. They are all lies. There is no guaranteed way to be successful. They talk as if all women are the same, and are mindless robots who will simply say yes if all the correct things are said to them. Life doesn`t work out like that. Every woman is an individual and must be treated as such.

My very first tip is that if you are wanting to meet a woman who you wish to develop a relationship with, a meaningful one, then do not, under any circumstances, try to meet her in a bar. First of all, you don`t know what she is like when you are intoxicated, or when the music is playing so loud.

The odds are also against you as you are competing with every man in the bar. On a normal day, should you approach a woman in the street and be polite, confident and charming, you may have a chance, in a bar, that will not work. If a woman is out to meet a man in a bar, then she is going to meet the one who looks the best, which may not always be you. You can`t sweep her off her feet with charm when she can`t hear or understand a word you are saying.

The best thing to do is to meet someone in a cafe, at work, school or on the street. Meeting women in everyday situations shows them that you are not just looking for one thing, like most men are when they meet women in a bar.

How should you approach them? That depends on the situation, you could overhear something she says and approach her about that, you could ask to sit with her in a cafe and start a conversation. Just be casual, confident and stick to conversations that you can both be involved in before you start asking her about herself.

Keep the meeting short, and ask her for her number or a date. If the meeting is short and you have been pleasant, she may want to find out more about you, in which case she will say yes. If you have talked about yourself too much, she may have already decided what she thinks about you and say no.

So remember, meet during the day and meet sober. Be polite, confident, charming and most of all (I know its a cliché but its so true) be yourself.

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Mr Romantic

2010-02-10T15:52:00.001Z

Now I know men will do anything for sex, and this story proves it.

I used to work behind a bar in my town, and for ages a guy used to come in and ask me out for a date, but I was in a relationship at the time, so I always turned him down. Eventually my boyfriend and me split up, and a few months down the line I decided to give this other guy a chance. I shall call him Pete (because that is his name). I was 19 at the time and he was 29. We went out for a drink in a nice little country pub, and just chatted about life and the universe, and clicked really well. He drove me home, gave me a little kiss in the car and was on his way.

He then came in a few nights later when I was working and asked if I fancied going to Bournemouth for the day as it was a really hot summer of July 2000, and so I agreed. He then phoned me the next day and asked if I wanted to stay overnight and he would book a hotel. I thought this was a but quick, but decided “What the hell!” He picked me up in his convertible and we drove down to Bournemouth to our hotel. I was expecting just a standard room, but he had booked the Honeymoon suite with the 4-poster bed and Jacuzzi. Now this guy obviously thought he was getting lucky! We dumped our stuff and he took me out for dinner, wined and dined me and provided me with great conversation and company, then we headed down the beach at night and sat watching the bright red moon spread the glow over the lapping oceans waves. It was the most romantic date I had ever had (remember I was only 19). We then went back to our room for the night, and the next day we headed back down the beach for a swim and sunbathing, before doing the usual crazy golf and just having such a laugh.

I had a lovely time, especially as it was only a second date – and it restored my faith that there are men out there who will make the effort to show a girl a good time. I will always remember him for that. We went out a few more times, but then I ended up getting back with my ex, so that was that. Game over.

As for the 4-poster bed and Jacuzzi? Well, it seemed a shame to waste them!

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Top 4 Tips for Dating in London

2010-02-08T15:34:00.000Z

London is not a place for an uptight old image. It’s a place like no other and it has great diversity, various cultures and some very strange haircuts. London is home to 7.3 million people, finding a date in London should not be a problem, but a guide to get you moving.

1. Spend the money

Don’t expect a date to be cheap in London; it can cost you £100 to £150 for some fine dining, with some wine and a couple of tickets to a concert or play offcourse.

2. Outdoors has its charm

London has magnificent gardens, making them a perfect spot to get to know each other away from the qualms of city life. Hire a boat At the Regent’s Park and work up a sweat together as you row across the beautiful Lake, if rowing is not for you choose Green Park where you and your date can go on a picnic.

3. Look somewhat fashionable

London is a city of fashion, there’s no point being old school, if you have the confidence wear something that is fresh and new. It might take a bit of work to get you into the fashion of the city. Guys should give the man purse the boot and instead of for a classic jeans and a tee. Accessories are also a must so choose a nice watch or a trendy jacket. Ladies should go with a pair of jeans that is figure-flattering or you can go with a sundress. You could also make do with a simple pair of heels or maybe even a funky headband. Cutting-edge hairstyles also impress.

4. Give the lady a compliment

Every London woman seems to want smaller thighs, firm and perkier breasts, glistening hair and be full of confidence. They also like complements from their man. Be nice and if you make her feel good, she will surely eat the box of chocolates you got her.

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Dirty Half-Dozen Dating Disasters!

2010-01-20T11:32:00.000Z

There are good dates and there are bad dates, but then there are the disastrous dates that take bad evenings to a whole new level. The first five in this run down have actually happened to my girl friends (one happened to me, but you will have to guess which one) so here in reverse order are the dirty half-dozen dating disasters!

6: A romantic date that consisted of watching all six Saw movies, one after another, on a giant IMAX screen.
5: My friend had decided to top up her spray tan before a date. The lights were hot and she felt a little nervous but after a while she noticed an orange stain on the white couch that they were sitting on. The stain grew larger until she eventually realised that it was her fake tan coming away. He called her ’oompa loompa’ all evening!
4: The ’gentleman’ had prepared for his date by getting blind drunk and swung my friend around so energetically on the dance floor that she slipped and fell into the DJ booth. She later required four stitches in her forehead, but not until he had been sick over her at the sight of blood!
3: A friend was reassured that her date had chosen a nice, quiet pub for a few drinks.Minutes later a group of Millwall and rival West Ham football fans entered and chaos predictably ensued, including guys literally swinging from the light fittings and the barman being punched in the face. It (the mayhem and the date) only ended when the riot police arrived.
2: The blind date arrived at the restaurant late to explain that his best friend’s husband had just shot himself and he had been comforting her. Half an hour later and the merry widow herself turned up. The date and the widow eventually married each other!
1: A woman was enjoying her blind date with a guy called Chris from Ferndale, Detroit. The meal was great, conversation flowed and romance was in the air. Chris went to pay for the meal but ’discovered’ that he had left his wallet in her car and asked to borrow the keys. The last that she saw of her date was as he sped away in her brand new Chevy sports car.

So the next time that you are on a bad date, just say that you need to powder your nose and run for the door, and thank your lucky stars because things could be even worse!

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The Secret of Attracting The Ladies...

2010-01-07T10:58:00.000Z

I have always been very popular with the ladies. This gets a couple of different reactions from my friends. The first of these is that they are constantly asking me for advice. How is it that I always manage to have a beautiful woman to keep me company? What is it that is so special about me? After all, I am not exactly an oil painting.

The other reaction that I get is amusement. Some of my friends actually called me ‘the stud’ because of my continual success with the opposite sex. I think that this must be a type of thinly veiled embarrassment or jealousy...

So, what is my big secret? How do I do it? Most men would give their right arm to be able to go out on dates with a succession of beautiful women. Will, like most things, a lot of it just boils down to common sense. What is it that a woman wants in a man? Once you know the answer to this then it is all very simple.

Women want a man who is strong, but I am not talking about impressing them with caveman behaviour. When I say strong, I mean in character. Be confident but don’t overdo it; there is a fine line between confidence and cockiness. And be mature. If a woman sees you messing around with your friends at the pub then she will find it a big turn-off. If she was on the lookout for a child then she wouldn’t be surrounded by adults! Women like to have a bit of fun only not to the extreme.

But the thing that I see as being paramount is politeness. It may be the twenty-first century but a woman still likes it when you behave like a gentleman. Make her feel special and treat her with respect. If you can manage to do these things and to balance them out correctly then you should see success!

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Tips To Get Yourself Out Of That Bad Date

2010-01-05T17:04:00.001Z

When you are out in the dating world, there will come times when you will simply not connect with your date. A date gone sour can be an almost excruciating task to get yourself out of. There are some tips you can follow to make the process a bit more easier.

Always have a good back up plan. Make arrangements with a friend to send them a signal that your date has gone bad. You could send them a code through your text messaging service on your phone which they will know ahead of time, means give you a call. Once they call, you can fake an emergency, thank them for the date and excuse yourself.

Another excuse you could try to gracefully get yourself out of that bad date is to suddenly stand up and apologize to them, telling them that you had totally forgotten that you were suppose to take over someone else’s shift tonight and must get going because you are already late. What works just as well is to excuse yourself, thank them for a nice date and tell them you have to be up extra early in the morning and should get home and get some sleep. This works best if you have at least spent a little bit of time with them. You can’t, for instance, order dinner and excuse yourself before your first course arrives.

One word of advice, no matter how bad the date is going (even if he is being rude) do not just get up and walk out (unless of course he is insulting you). Causing a scene would not be in your best interest. Just get up gracefully, thank him for the date and tell him that you are just not feeling a connection and then leave. This helps save your reputation.

Getting out of a bad date takes a little thought. Being prepared ahead of time can certainly make the process that much easier.

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Tips On Finding The Perfect Man For You

2010-01-05T17:03:00.001Z

Finding the perfect man can be such a tedious task for some women. Either they have too busy of a life, they do not get out that much or they are too picky and analyze every possible match for them. There is a solution to all three of these problems.

First of all do not listen to your friends or parents when it comes to finding the perfect man. Each person has their own opinion on what makes up the perfect guy and they will throw suggestions out to you that might not make sense to you. It is up to you and you only what constitutes the perfect man.

A perfect man doesn’t have to fit any particular category. He can be just your ordinary guy but make your heart begin to flutter simply because he fits right into your lifestyle. Instead of trying to find the perfect man, why not date until you find a man that feels comfortable, natural and you have a connection with and then build the relationship from there.

With that being said, some places you can find the perfect man are at your college or university, school, workplace or even a grocery store. You can also try game shops, pubs, sports grounds or any other place you know guys will flock.

For all you loners out there that do not have a life and never get out, try Internet dating. This gives you an advantage actually, because you can take your time and cyber date for awhile until you feel a connection. Just be careful with this one, because you don’t know what type of people are out there. When it comes time to meet up in person, make sure it is at a public place your first few dates until he builds your trust.

No matter where you find your perfect man, the point here is to get yourself out there and test the waters. Do not just settle with the first man you meet. Try a few on for size and see which one fits naturally into your life mold.

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Saturday Night

2009-11-10T11:29:00.001Z

How to get out of a date gone wrong? Well, before I go into the things I've learnt over the years on how to get out of that awful situation you find yourself in we must first define, what exactly is a date gone wrong?

My take on it is easy, and it really shouldn't need defining at all. But just so we're all clear, a date gone wrong is one where you would rather be on the other side of the world, maybe you phrase it differently but it all means the same thing. You saw him on the dating website and thought you'd give him a go, maybe you got excited by his picture, his profile or values, or a combination of all three. But when you met the spark, the chemistry just wasn't there. We've all been there. So now, to the question in hand. How do you get out of the date that's gone wrong. Don't get me wrong, dates going wrong can be for many reasons, but the one thing they all have in common is that you need to get the hell out of there, and sometimes pretty damn well quickly. My advice is very simple. Unless the guy has done something offensive or illegal (in which case you should just tell him that you couldn't be with someone who does such things) the only thing to do is to tell the truth.

We all live on the same planet and I do believe in karma.

So, if you have to get out of that awful situation just tell the poor guy that you need to leave. Be honest, but try to break it to him gently. Don't use those crap excuses that you forgot something or your granny has had a turn for the worse. You'll just make yourself look daft. So, be honest and walk out with your head held high.

A really good example of this happened to my best friend, the other night she went out with a doctor, who just couldn't stop talking about Sclerotherapy. And that could never really lead to a good date. After about an hour, she literally just said that he was the least entertaining bloke she had ever met, and walked out the door. And that ladies and gentlemen, is how it is done!

Online Dating Sites - When You Just Don't Have The Time

2009-10-20T11:03:00.004Z

Many people lead very busy lives. This is especially true in the case of being a student. Who has the time to go out and meet new people when you have classes, homework, testings, etc. This is where online dating sites can really help. Finding the right one is important as not all dating sites are good on the net.

When looking for a good online dating site, you want to find the ones that require you to fill out a short survey. By doing this, it allows the dating site to match you up with people that you are compatible with. Also, stay away from the dating sites that allow nudity because these are usually not sites built for creating relationships but rather a quick, cheap date. Once you find the right dating site, create a thorough profile and have fun finding your new date.

I'm looking good. My shadow's looking good. What a team.

2009-04-27T16:10:00.000Z

Ah yes, the famous quote from that character who places the highest degree of importance on Looking Good. The Cat from Red Dwarf.

Boys- going out on dates, looking out for girls and approching them in bars- it doesnt matter how good your talk is, it doesnt matter if you happen to be wearing the latest in Lynx aromas, if you dont look good, you wont get a look in.
Now, to clarify this. Im not talking about getting non surgical cosmetic treatments, and Im not talking about microdermabrasion treatment. Im talking about getting some decent togs on, making sure they match, they fit your body type, and most importantly, get some decent shoes.

The most off putting thing for any girl is a man who doesnt take care, or care enough about his shoes. You know as you go past a girl in the street and give her the "once over" she does exactly the samething- except that she looks at your face, and then (and you might want to actually watch out for this- its so true), her eyes flick down to your shoes... and according to what you are wearing, her eyes will either go back up to your face, or will look at the builders crack across the road. Yes, with bad shoes, that is her next best shot.
So remember. Good shoes means you've got a better chance.

Now continuing along the way, you know the Lynx adverts- yes, the ones where the nice smelling guy gets the girl. Thats the truth.
If you turn up to a date and you wreak, then seriously, you might as well kick yourself in the balls and get on the train back home.
There is a very big HOWEVER just around the corner though... Lynx, it basically smells like you are a deperate teenager looking to get laid.
If you have any self-respect at all, get a decent aftershave- consider it an investment - an investment for good times.
So there you have it. Dress well, have good shoes, smell nice.
That lady is Yours.

How To Attract The Opposite Sex

2009-04-08T14:12:00.002Z

Too often there are people out there who wonder why they do not get the attention other people get. They can recognize that they are better looking overall, that they have a good job, and they know that they are a good person. But why is it that someone less attractive in the big picture sense will get more attention then someone else? If you are someone who is feeling this way then you may want to take a good long look in the mirror. Do not worry, this is not about facing your inner demons but rather truly looking at your physical appearance.

You do not have to be perfect looking, go and buy hundreds of dollars in cosmetics online , or have model qualities but you do have to be confident. Are you giving off a radiant self-confidence that attracts other people? If you can hardly get someone of the opposite sex to look at you then probably not radiating a lot of positive feelings. Make sure that you are dressing nice before and fixing your hair and face before you leave the house. Smile, keep your eyes bright, and be friendly. Feel good about yourself and remember that you are attractive and worthwhile. Believe it or not, your thoughts hold a lot of wonderful power that has been untapped until now.

By making sure that you see yourself in a great light, you will find that others will find you in a great light as well. Believe in yourself and see how much you have to offer other people and they will naturally pick up on it and want to talk to you. Positive thoughts bring positive outcomes so try to not look so down on yourself and you will be much better off. Just give it a try for a couple of weeks and you will see what a difference it makes in your life.

Finding a Mate through Virtual Dating

2009-02-11T16:35:00.001Z

The site Omnidate.com has completely revolutionized modern Internet dating. Instead of using boring profiles, email marketing and Instant Messaging to establish communication, Omnidate utilizes a concept known as virtual dating. This is when couples go out on a date online before they arrange to do it in real life.

So, how does a virtual date work? First, you pick out your online character. This character can take on any look you wish, though it’s recommended you have your character match your own features. For example, if you’re overweight don’t choose a skinny character in hopes of getting more dates, or you'll end up having to have alot of cosmetic surgery before being able to meet up in real life! It’s better if you be as realistic as possible so people know upfront what they’re dealing with.

Anyway, after you select your character, you need to select the setting for your date. One of the most interesting is the paradise setting, where you and your date get to relax on a tropical island. But if you prefer something more realistic, Omnidate has a ton of urban restaurant settings.

After your setting has been selected, you are ready to choose your date. To do this, you look through a list of profiles, (like any other dating site). But instead of emailing or IMing them, you invite them to a virtual dating session. If they accept the invitation, both of your characters will be placed into a 3-D photorealistic environment. From there, you and your date will be given the option to chat or play games. And, if you like the experience, you can set up more virtual dates or communicate offline for a real date.

In conclusion, if you want to add a little bit of fun to your online dating experience consider trying Omnidate. Through their unique virtual dating interface, you get a chance to see if you and your match have chemistry before dating offline.

Online Dating vs. Matchmaking Companies

2009-02-04T13:11:00.002Z

Before online dating many singles turned to matchmakers to find that special someone. Matchmakers still exist even today, but they have often been overshadowed with the presence of online dating sites. Yet, does that automatically mean that online dating sites are better?

Well, unlike many dating sites, matchmakers put a more human face on the dating experience. Some of them you even meet in person, so you can better explain what you’re looking for in a date. From then on the matchmaker begins scouring their own network of prospects finding people that they feel suite your interests. The advantages are many, one of the ones that would appeal to me is the human element. An online dating service may find me the perfect date, but it wouldn't advise me what to wear, that it was worth going out and buying cosmetics, where to meet the person. A matchmaker can do all these things.

Online dating sites force you to make these determinations. Consequently, you may have to spend several hours combing through personal ads and email marketing yourself to potential dates to see who is right for you. And even then you may not realize the person on the other end is not right for you. This could be problematic if you start dating each respondent. Sure, the process is fun, but if you’re a busy professional who wants love now, you want to try to eliminate unlikely prospects as soon as possible.

Matchmakers help you in the elimination process. They assume the work that you might not have time to do. And, if they’re good at what they do, you should have a more decent prospect when it is time to meet. This doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be walking down the aisle with that individual, but at least you’re on the right playing field.

In conclusion, matchmaking companies can be very effective, even in a world where online dating has ruled the romantic realm. Of course, they are more expensive than many online dating sites, but that’s to be expected since they are doing the brunt of the matchmaking work. Yet, if you find you can’t afford their fees, you can still find what you need with online dating sites. True, they may not offer the same type of services as a matchmaker, but at least they do provide a venue through which you can easily meet people.

Can an International Romance Work Out?

2009-01-23T15:41:00.002Z

With the advent of the Internet, international communication has become easier than ever. And sometimes, this communication becomes much more personal– even romantic. Using the Internet as a start of an international romance can be a quiet, comfortable way of getting to know each other first, such as through email marketing before taking it to the next level. Yet, is it practical to enter into a long-term relationship with someone overseas? Isn’t a person better off with localized dating?

Well, while international dating can be tough, it’s not impossible. Ultimately, in order to be successful in such a relationship, the couple must: 1) have the financial resources to visit each other and 2) possess a mutual understanding as to where they’re going to settle if they want to take things to the next level.

Of these two factors, the second is the toughest because it forces a person to completely change their lives. Not only do they have to leave their family and friends, but they must also adopt to a completely different culture.

On top of that, how does a couple decide which person makes the sacrifice? Some go with tradition and have the woman move to her husband’s country. Others make the determination based on finances. Basically, the person with the least amount of resources moves over to their lover’s country, as he or she is better off.

There are also situations where a person moves because they were interested in emigrating anyway. Having their boyfriend or girlfriend located in that country is just icing on the cake.

Either way, the decision is still not going to be easy as the moving party must deal with two difficulties: life in a new relationship and life in a different country. Both of these can be tough by themselves, so imagine how hard things are when you combine the two.

With all that being said, know what you’re getting into when embarking on an international romance. Think about some of the points made in this article, and discuss them with your lover. The resulting conversation will let you know if your international romance has the potential for working out.

How BBWs Can Find Romance

2009-01-22T17:13:00.002Z

For BBWs, (also known as Big Beautiful Women), finding romance can be tough, especially online. Just visit any site offering online personals. Around 95% of them will talk about how much they don’t want women who are overweight. And, if a BBW responds to them, more than likely her email will get ignored.

So, what can a BBW do? Should she rush right out to a cosme store and buy a miracle product? There are some options, some genuine treatments that can help to reduce weight fast. Both liposuction and things like smart lipo are now well used safe proceedures that many people do use. But what if a BBW doesn't want to do these things? People who are insensitive to weight issues say she should eat less and exercise more. If she does these two magic things, she will become worthy of a man’s affection.

Well, while maintaining a healthy weight is important, a man must accept a woman as she is. That’s why single BBWs shouldn’t wait until they’re a size 6 to find a man. Instead, they need to exert confidence right now, and seek romance even if the dating world seems more daunting.

Of course, there are venues that may make BBWs more comfortable. BBW dating sites are an example. These sites connect BBWs with men who don’t mind dating heavier women. Some even prefer it.

Yet, what about people who say that these men are just “chubby chasers” looking for easy sex? Well, while such men are on these networks, there are also men who are more genuine. Besides, even regular dating sites have men who only desire one night stands. The only difference is that they want their date to fit society’s definition of thin and beautiful.

However, I don’t want to give the perception that BBWs can’t find love on traditional dating sites either. In fact, if they respond to enough personals, eventually numbers win. They just have to stay persistent and treat their romantic life as seriously as they would anything else.

In conclusion, don’t think that just because you’re a BBW you can’t find romance. With online dating sites and BBW networks, you have the advantage of communicating with many men at a time. And, if one man doesn’t take you, I guarantee you there will be another one out there– you just have to respond to their profile.

How to Stay Safe When Dating Online

2009-01-21T09:38:00.001Z

What are the best venues for meeting people, when you’re a busy professional? Pubs and clubs tend to attract those interested in one night stands, while speed-dating may seem awkward to some people. So beyond church socials and other community events, that leaves a third option– Internet dating.

With Internet dating you get an opportunity to get to know a person before you actually meet them in real life. And, all of your communications can be done around your schedule, right in the comfort of your own home.

However, some people get a false sense of security when they start dating online. They feel as if they ‘know’ the person, when in reality the individual is still a stranger. That’s why you must still keep things safe when you meet Internet dates in real life.

You can start this process by email marketing yourself. Get to know the person via email first. Then you can proceed by making calls through an unlisted telephone number. Many telephone companies will offer this service for a minimal charge, but if not you could call from a pay phone. Either way, when you call from an unlisted number, the person on the other end can’t trace your address.

As far as your first meeting, always do it at a public place where there is security around. Undergroud train stations are an excellent example. Just make sure you choose stops that have malls or restaurants nearby, so you and your date will still have something to do.

You can make things even safer if you have a friend come along. This may spoil the mood somewhat, but if a person has reasonable intentions they should be understanding. If they aren’t, they might be out for easy sex, or something devious. Of course, usually it’s the former, but in today’s world you can’t always be sure. Regardless, trust your own judgment. If a person is really into you, they will be patient and stick by you even if they don’t agree with your concerns.

Top Five Tips for Keeping Your Man

2008-10-14T09:26:00.005Z

A lot of girls think there is this ridiculous, hidden secret for keeping their man happy. Women go out and get liposuction, boob jobs, and laser hair removal to keep their man “content.” What many fail to realize is that keeping your man is simple and there is no ancient secret.It is all based on common sense.

Treat your man how you would want to be treated. The Golden Rule! Would you want to be nagged to death to do something? No! So why do it to your man?Would you want to be interrupted while speaking? No! So don’t do it to him.
Let him have “boys night out” without question or suspicion. We often forget that it is not our job to mother our men. Until something happens to prove the contrary, your man should be free of suspicion or guilt when he chooses to have a boys night out. He is a grown up and should be free to make grown up decisions without consequence from his partner.
The little things count. Making his favorite food, cleaning up his place, even buying him a little something counts for a lot! Sure, there is no reason all the housework should be on us. But helping him out with some little tasks as a surprise shows him you care enough to try and make his life easier.
Don’t smother him.You do not have to be all over your man all the time to let him know you care. Women tend to be a bit clingier than men. Physical affection is great but people have different love languages. If you are all over him all the time, it comes off as needy.
Have self-confidence. There is nothing more unattractive than a woman who is down on yourself. You are only as beautiful as your inside and no liposuction or botox can improve that.If your man sees that sparkling self-confidence in you, he knows that you are strong enough to survive on your own. This makes men want to hold onto us most of all!

Dating into the Hoods

2008-06-03T11:36:00.003Z

So I had a date lined up with a dancer. She a pro dancer too! For security, her name will be changed to protect from embaresment(!), but for this article let us call her Jo (which is almost a boys name so really does protect her!).

'Jo' is beautiful. I mean really beautiful. She is also, talented, creative and alot of fun to be around. In terms of ticking the boxes of being good girlfriend material, she ticks them all and then some. Even more that this - she is a cheerleader. Even more than that, she is a cheerleading coach! I'm talking about flips, stunts and the uniform to boot. All in all she really has got it going on.

So after six months, I manage to arrange a date and a time to go out. Now dating in London has both many advantages which are also disadvantages. Prymarily, there is loads to do which is both good and bad! Much of it also costs alot, so you kinda end up being judged on your wealth on the first date by where you choose to take someone. So I did what any keen guy would do, I tried to pull some strings in order to do something cool.
After seeing it advertised on a few banner stands I managed to arrange to go and see "Into the Hoods" in London. It is a Hop Hop dance show, and it is GREAT! It is a really good night out, and I would highly recomend it to anyone. It also makes for a good first date setting. The show encourages the audience to shout out, cheer and get involved, which means you are participating in the show, not just watching it. As a choice, I thought that from all the london dating options I had, it was a good one. It turned out to be a great one.

We went, had a great time, she loved the show and I came out on a real high from it. Everything seemed to be going really smoothly... till she ran away. It litterally ended as suddenly as that. One minute I'm walking her to the station, the next minute she was gone.
I don't really know what to say now, it ended so suddenly that I'm still a little in shock by the whole thing. I really thought that it was going well... how wrong I can be.
So there we go. I have no moral from this, only really that it goes to show that you can never really know whats going on until the power of retrospect kicks in.

The Shannon Matthews Case Thickens!

2008-04-20T23:07:00.001Z

What’s the real story about what happened to young Shannon Matthews? This story is taking more twists and turns than a soap opera plot! Will we ever find out the truth of what happened? Why is her mother involved? What will the impact of this be on other children who go missing and how the police (and of course the media) treat their parents? Will it turn out that following a serious face lift operation that went wrong, the mother is infact the long lost sister? Are the police implying that the mother is somehow responsible for what happened? She did maintain all along that she felt Shannon was alive; does this mean she knew for a fact that Shannon was alive? Why hide your own child? Why would anyone go through that kind of media attention knowing what would be the outcome once the truth was revealed? It’s like one of those crazy Hollywood movies that have a completely unbelievable plot. I'm genuinely waiting for one of the people in it to turn out to be someone else having disguised themselves with some serious cosmetic surgery. Or perhaps for the long lost 'real' husband to come out of the woodworks. What concerns me is how Shannon herself is doing. Her face has been across the media for weeks, and now her mother’s being held in custody as part of the investigation into her disappearance. At some point she’s going to have to return to something of a normal life at school – although with the charges facing her family members it’s hard to say where she’s going to be living. I hope she’s got the inner strength to deal with all this as something that happened and is over, and can move on with her life rather than have it ruin the potential she had to make a success from her life. This could be largely related to the kind of support she has around her once the dust settles and I hope that the people who are given the task of rebuilding this little girl’s confidence and life can do so leaving as few scars from this incident as possible. On a positive note.Lynn has completely re-designed the liposuction Brentwood pages

What’s the real story about what happened to young Shannon Matthews? This story is taking more twists and turns than a soap opera plot! Will we ever find out the truth of what happened? Why is her mother involved? What will the impact of this be on other children who go missing and how the police (and of course the media) treat their parents? Will it turn out that following a serious face lift operation that went wrong, the mother is infact the long lost sister?

Are the police implying that the mother is somehow responsible for what happened? She did maintain all along that she felt Shannon was alive; does this mean she knew for a fact that Shannon was alive? Why hide your own child? Why would anyone go through that kind of media attention knowing what would be the outcome once the truth was revealed? It’s like one of those crazy Hollywood movies that have a completely unbelievable plot. I'm genuinely waiting for one of the people in it to turn out to be someone else having disguised themselves with some serious cosmetic surgery. Or perhaps for the long lost 'real' husband to come out of the woodworks.

What concerns me is how Shannon herself is doing. Her face has been across the media for weeks, and now her mother’s being held in custody as part of the investigation into her disappearance. At some point she’s going to have to return to something of a normal life at school – although with the charges facing her family members it’s hard to say where she’s going to be living. I hope she’s got the inner strength to deal with all this as something that happened and is over, and can move on with her life rather than have it ruin the potential she had to make a success from her life. This could be largely related to the kind of support she has around her once the dust settles and I hope that the people who are given the task of rebuilding this little girl’s confidence and life can do so leaving as few scars from this incident as possible.

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A date at the markets

2008-04-20T22:33:00.002Z

One of the more under rated sights in London are its market places. And what better place to take out your new date than a trip to some of London’s top haggle havens. There is a market for every type of person and for every date. Most of all, they are a great way in which to spend a Sunday, getting to know someone a little bit better as well as a great way to see the city at work.

And now the winter has set in, there is a real earthy feel to the markets of London. Like stepping back in time. Seeing the smoke come off the chestnut grills and hearing the shouts of traders pitching their wares. Also the Christmas crowds have now left which leaves for some bargains to be had.

So where are the best markets to explore on a date? Well, probably the best place to start is in the East End, early on a Sunday. For there is nowhere else in London where so many markets are packed into such a small place.

First head to Columbia Road and to the famous flower market. The smells and sights of this fabulous market which stocks an array of flowers and other horticultural delights. And guys, be romantic, it is a great way to start off your date, buy her a flower. It will be appreciated on an early Sunday morning.

Nearby is Petticoat Lane, the famed clothes market. Forgot your hat, scarf or need a winter warmer, than this is the place to get it. A great range of eateries both from the stalls themselves and in the cafe’s that line the streets will also provide you with a breakfast to boost those flagging energy reserves.

A short stroll away lies Brick Lane. The lane itself is a fascinating collection of bric-a-brac and the brand new and as London’s most diverse flea market, it will stock just about anything you want. Also on Brick Lane is the magnificent Back Yard market, opposite the Truman Brewery. Home to hand made crafts and artisans, this wonderful covered market offers a range of goods to stimulate the senses.

So try something a little different this winter and take your date for a wander round some of London’s more fun shopping experiences!

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Dangerous Dating

2008-03-28T14:17:00.002Z

I was at a solicitors office looking for a home information pack solution that would mean I could finally sell my house now that I’d found a buyer. Whilst there I got chatting to the secretary, Jo who I have to say was quite beautiful. Now I’m not one to normally be very forward, and this was no exception but its seems I didn’t have to be. She was the one who asked me for my number! When I offered it to her she then refused because infact she didn’t really need it as she had access to my files. This is the point when my alarm bells started ringing, but me being me having had years of training from my morning alarm clock, i didn’t hear a thing and drifted right through them.

So I met up with her for a drink, and was having a pleasant enough date when she started telling me about the acne laser treatment that she’d had done and what an amazing difference it had made to her skin. This was of course a perfect opportunity to compliment her, so I did and hadn’t clocked that it was a strange thing to mention on a first date. As the conversation went on she started talking about the eyebag surgery that she’d also had done last week. Now I am a man, so I feel whilst this is all a little strange I need to remind you that she was really quite stunning. I was quickly finding out why she looked so good, but the fact remains that she did look great. So I went with this. It was only when she excitedly told me about the breast reduction in london she was having the following week that I really broke out of my male stupor and started to wonder what on earth she was on. It turned out that she was mad. Not only that, but she was obsessed with changing her appearance. You probably think that I’m exaggerating. I’m not, honestly. After another drink I found out her husband left her because of all the obsessive surgery she was having. She said it was because he was a skin flint and didn’t want to spend the money on her any more. I think it was because he didn’t want her to continually be changing herself for no real reason.

Needless to say I didn’t go on a second date with her – but I did later find out she was bit of a serial dater from someone in the office. Apparently she went out on a lot of first dates with clients who moved through, apparently all the ones she went with were rather well off and she knew that from their files. Most people thought she wanted a wealthy man to be comfortable, personally I just think she wanted someone who could fund her endless need for surgery.

Hunt for Love

2008-02-15T11:33:00.002Z

A friend of mine is the arty type. She has been living in our fine city capitial now for just over a year and has been one approimately one date (with who turned out to be already attached). However last week she had a change in luck. She went on a UK treasure hunt with a company called Shoot experience, they run these weekend events where basically people sign up and are put into teams of three to four people, you are then required to run around london with your digital camera coming up with some of the most creative photos that answers the clues you are provided.

Have a look at some of the results here. The great thing is by the end of the day She had two different guys phone number both of which were highly eligatable and had loads in common with her. Good going.

These outing work well, becuase different from the usually dating scene you have something else to thing about rather than having the big question hanging over your head 'DO I fancy them?'. You can enjoy coming up with clever photographys and chat and hang out in a low stress enviroment. Also you get a quite certain type of person is attracted to these events, the more artistic laid back people.

I have checked out shootexperience website and they do a whole number of events ranging from photography competitions to team building events but personally I think they have missed a trick, running these events just for single could become the next speed dating!

Winter Dating

2008-02-15T11:31:00.000Z

Now that Christmas has come and gone, the remainder of winter seems bleak to those thinking of where to go on a date. For all the crowds and fun that was Christmas has long passed and all that remains are the short cold days until spring.

But this is London and the city does not hibernate and nor should your budding relationship. For now is one of the best times in which to enjoy the capital for all that it has to offer. The children have returned to school, the streets are devoid of tourists and all around the fresh winter air will keep many of the crowds indoors, which means more for you and your date to enjoy! So come on, grab that new found person in your life, and explore some of the best that London has to offer, for what remains of the rest of winter.

Seats at the theatre, opera or cinema are there for the taking. And now that the commercialism of Christmas is over, the more artistic offerings are now on show. Those great films from year’s festivals, the acts from the fringes or the touring companies all show what’s new during these winter months. Now is the time that these venues are appealing to the connoisseurs of great art in which to attract their audiences. Time for you to take advantage.

Not only that, but restaurants now fling open their doors for the winter season. After all the partying in December, many people will not frequent an eatery for the next few months. Which leaves more room for the both of you. It also allows some unabashed indulgence to establishments that are often booked out during the rest of the year. Go on, treat yourselves!

And why not try some outdoor pursuits during these winter months. Be sensible, wrap up warm and enjoy some of the fantastic parkland that London has to offer its inhabitants. After all, where else is there a better place in the city, in which to get to know that someone new in your life? A clear winter’s day is a perfect place in which to see something new in both the city and in your date...
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The first phone call

2008-02-04T11:08:00.000Z

The phone. Some cannot live without it, others call it the bane of their existence. Love it or loathe it, nine times out of ten, a phone call will inevitably be needed in which to communicate with that someone new on the horizon. However, the politics of the phone call are fraught with difficulty. And the first phone call is the one that frightens people the most. How exactly do you go about making that all importannt first contact?

Do you call that person tomorrow or should you wait a couple of days. Is it best to be casual or is keenness the way forward. A week is too long, but what is the correct time. Then again, who should call first? Who agreed to do the phone call. Should you phone back, in case that person forgot your number or lost it somewhere?

With the advent of mobile phones, the problem gets a lot worse. Do you text of phone that person. Texting is easy, less embarrassment of having to talk to them. But, did that person receive your text, did you type in the right number? Or maybe that person just sees that text as something casual, and doesn’t get the message. Maybe I should phone them.

Missed calls. Ah, when first starting out, you could spend your whole life flicking through your phone, checking every five minutes to see if you have received a call from the phone number you were meant to hear from yesterday.

Then comes the dreaded voicemail. Out of all the modern day menaces to add to the minefield of making that first phone call, the voicemail box is probably the one that sticks out like a sore thumb. If you skip the voicemail box, then you are registered as a missed call. Does that person have your number? Or may that person has diverted you to voicemail in order to avoid speaking to you. Ah, what do I say, that ‘beep’ really unnerved me.

So I wonder, what happened before the advent of the telephone? People probably just asked each other out. Sigh and think of those simpler times, when everything was a little more straight forward...
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A new partner for Christmas

2008-02-04T11:05:00.000Z

The Christmas period is upon us and you have recently started dating. So begins a complete political mine field before the relationship has even got off the ground. The first Christmas together is always something tricky, but how about a Christmas and New Year fur those that have just started dating? It is even worse. There are so many unwritten rules that bar the way for a simple festive season.

For starters, the big question of where to spend Christmas Day itself. Is it too soon to spend it with your partner or should you stick to tradition? Going back to your own family, instead checking the phone all of Christmas to see if you have missed a call from your new found partner. Then there is the week between Christmas and New Year. Often, this is the time when you catch up with friends and see the remainder of the family that you have avoided so far. So where does that leave the quality time for yourselves as a couple? Finally comes New Year’s You may have had plans, but now having a partner changes everything. Do your plans get blown away in the winds of passion, or should you try to accommodate the latest addition to your social calendar? The Christmas period with a new partner is one very stressful time for all involved.

Come January 2nd, everything returns to normal. Suddenly, all the fuss over Christmas and New Year vanishes as if the event never happened. All the festivities and frolics from the past month are hidden. The only thing to look forward to are three more months of winter...

So, if you are just starting out on the road to love, don’t worry too much about your plans around the Festive Season. After all, once everyone has gone back to their own lives, you have a good six weeks in which to explore the possibilities with your other half. And it is far better to have great company in time for Valentine’s. After all, as everyone knows, that is the date in the year which is far more stressful in which to be a new couple.

Coffee?

2008-01-16T19:20:00.001Z

Asking someone out can be a tricky thing. Where do you go and what do you do are all important. But of course, the most nerve racking thought is whether or not the other person in question actually reciprocates those feelings. Often we have grand plans but usually the casual question of ‘do you want to grab a coffee sometime’ does the trick. A drink suggests a lot and a rebuttal for that is often as good as a proverbial kick to the ego. Coffee is casual. That’s the way it should be. A small cafe somewhere, in a fairly cool location, coffee can be done morning, noon or night and so, meeting for a coffee can seem like a casual request to extend or pursue a relationship. And a rejection can be smarted off as barely a paper cut to my own emotions. And there lies the rub. Does everyone turning up for coffee know what they are pursuing. The fact that everyone has now become so casual in asking each other out on dates, do we really know that we are on a date or just grabbing a cup of coffee. There have been many times when I have sat with a someone special at my favourite coffee house wishing for more and yet not being able to pursue anything beyond the first caffeine tainted sip of ‘platonic’. We are casual due to rejection but that same risk averse nature has actually left us more confused. Coffee is meant to mean something, right? But often, while travelling to that cafe, I am in a state of anticipation. What will this cup contain? What will come forth when I put it to my lips? Will the taste be one that is sweet or bitter and harsh to the throat? It would be so easy to add a little sugar to the mix, but who dares in today’s non-offensive world? I guess rejection has to be taken as part of the whole dating process. Sometimes coffee leads to just a glass of water. Or sometimes to a whole chocolate cheesecake! But I still like to taste something milky when I join someone for a cup of that aromatic blend. Hey, do you want to grab a cup of coffee sometime?

Asking someone out can be a tricky thing. Where do you go and what do you do are all important. But of course, the most nerve racking thought is whether or not the other person in question actually reciprocates those feelings. Often we have grand plans but usually the casual question of ‘do you want to grab a coffee sometime’ does the trick. A drink suggests a lot and a rebuttal for that is often as good as a proverbial kick to the ego. Coffee is casual. That’s the way it should be. A small cafe somewhere, in a fairly cool location, coffee can be done morning, noon or night and so, meeting for a coffee can seem like a casual request to extend or pursue a relationship. And a rejection can be smarted off as barely a paper cut to my own emotions.

And there lies the rub. Does everyone turning up for coffee know what they are pursuing. The fact that everyone has now become so casual in asking each other out on dates, do we really know that we are on a date or just grabbing a cup of coffee. There have been many times when I have sat with a someone special at my favourite coffee house wishing for more and yet not being able to pursue anything beyond the first caffeine tainted sip of ‘platonic’.

We are casual due to rejection but that same risk averse nature has actually left us more confused. Coffee is meant to mean something, right? But often, while travelling to that cafe, I am in a state of anticipation. What will this cup contain? What will come forth when I put it to my lips? Will the taste be one that is sweet or bitter and harsh to the throat? It would be so easy to add a little sugar to the mix, but who dares in today’s non-offensive world?

I guess rejection has to be taken as part of the whole dating process. Sometimes coffee leads to just a glass of water. Or sometimes to a whole chocolate cheesecake! But I still like to taste something milky when I join someone for a cup of that aromatic blend. Hey, do you want to grab a cup of coffee sometime?

What to do on a first date?

2008-01-16T19:11:00.000Z

There are many different activities in which to partake on a first date. All have their pros and pitfalls, but where and when is the best place to go. Well, that depends on the personality of the people involved as well as how you both met up. So here is a quick guide to where to go on that all important first meeting.

A Bar:

A great location to start off with, if especially you are meeting a blind date. It is a public place and so safety is a big plus point. If you pick the right bar, you will be able to get somewhere classy or somewhere on week night could mean that you are treated to some live music. Always a safe option.

A Coffee Shop:

My personal favourite, as I am a chatterbox. Usually fairly quiet, so it is a great place in which to know someone’s personality. And the sobriety of the beverages allows you to gauge a person with a little more reality. Something great in which to kick off a long-term relationship.

The Movies:

Very teeny, but I do love going to a cinema. There are two ways to make this kind of a date work. Choose a great movie and have a long walk afterwards to chat about the film. This is one for the film buffs. Or just go and do the old fashioned way and head for the back row...

Restaurant:

Meeting someone for a meal takes some preplanning, so this is not really a great option for someone you have just met. It is probably a little better for someone you already know, such as taking a friendship to the next level. There are a lot of politics that surround the date in a restaurant. Does the guy pick up the bill or do the couple ‘Go Dutch’. The type of food that you eat or even the clothes that you wear. But there is something about a restaurant, it impresses and you satisfy the basic urges of food.

A Stroll:

Simplicity. Meet up and go for a long walk. I suppose all good dates involve a walk somewhere. It is basic and there is nothing to hide from one another. The stroll is unpredictable, you just don’t know where you’re going, just like a first date and just like a relationship. While it is simple in its stimuli, a walk with your date can often be the most satisfying first date as you are letting the evening take its course naturally. What better way in which to begin something a little deeper.

A place in London for a first date.

2007-11-11T15:10:00.001Z

London is not really known for its romantic settings. Unlike Paris or New York, London does not really have something iconic such as walking hand in hand underneath the Eiffel Tower or Ice Skating outside the Rockefeller Centre. In the movies or anywhere else, London is usually gritty. So it can be quite hard to think of somewhere spectacular to go on that first date. Somewhere that offers long walks, a great view and a few fun dining options on the way. Luckily, Londoners have always had a little secret to impress their first dates.

Welcome to the South Bank, the best place in London to get to know someone a little better. The lack of traffic means that there is enough stillness in the air to have a conversation. The open, well lit riverside gives a beautiful vista to all the attractions across the river - Parliament, St Paul's and The Tower. It is easy to start and finish the walk at any point as the tube runs close by on both sides of the river. And dotted along the way are eateries from the simple to the flash. If there is one place in London on which to take a date, this is the place to come.

Where to start? Why, where else but under the Clock at Waterloo. A time honoured tradition, particularly for those arriving south of the river. Then a quick gauntlet over York Road and the Thames lies ahead of you. If you are feeling fancy, then catch a show at the theatre or a great film at the National Film Theatre? Or why not treat someone special to the London Eye or a meal in the Oxo Tower. And for those wanting just a little bit of conversation, try a coffee shop, there are plenty to choose from.

All will give you one thing to do. A means to start talking. Away from the hustle of the city, but close enough to the bustle to be accessible, London’s South Bank provides an ideal place to get to know someone a little better. Whether day or night, the appeals of this little segment of the riverside provide the fertile ground in which to start something that could be a little more fun. And of course it is a secret that Londoners have kept under their belts for quite sometime.

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The Top 5 - Cosmopolitan Capital

2007-11-08T09:00:00.001Z

For me, one of the things I love most about London is its cosmopolitan nature. And of course, due to its nature, there are fairly good odds that you could be dating someone from a completely different part of the world to yourself. This is an advantage in itself, exploring multicultural London. It makes the dates a bit more interesting, you get to sample some great food and it gives something new to the relationship. So here are my top five districts in the Cosmopolitan Capital:

5) New Malden - Korea Town

This suburb in the Royal Borough of Kingston may not seem like much to the average outsider, but it is actually home to the largest Korean community in Europe. A walk along the High Street will take you past great family run restaurants serving the treats from Kimchi to Korean Barbecue. Spicy treats for the tastebuds!

4) Stockwell - Little Portugal

A line starting in Vauxhall down the South Lambeth Road, round to Stockwell Road and emerging on the other side of Brixton on Coldharbour Lane that is filled with little Portuguese eateries. Perfect for a quick lunch or a more hearty meal in the evening, do not forget to try a few Pasteis de Nata with your midmorning coffee.

3) Upton Park - South India

The busy Green Street is home to a thriving market place as well as some of the finest food to emanate from the South of the Subcontinent. Remarkably different from the usual fare served in a curry house, the use of spices such as cinnamon, cloves and fennel add to the flavours of the food used. The shops and stalls nearby are also filled with gold and silks in the >London thoroughfare.

Some information about Ringworm (Skin Disease)

2007-09-25T15:42:00.001Z

Ringworm is a contagious fungal infection of the skin and can exist anywhere on the body. It generally is a reddish to brownish raised or bumpy patch of skin that may be lighter in the center, giving the appearance of a 'ring'. It generally occurs on the skin that is moist, hot, and hidden from the light like feet & groin.

It is very common in children and spread by skin-to-skin contact. When ringworm is found in the nails or on the scalp the infection is much more difficult to eliminate. Prolonged treatment with a prescription oral anti-fungal medicine (as well as other topical medicines) is usually necessary. Scalp ringworm is a major cause of hair loss, and should be treated aggressively.

Appearance of one or more red raised itchy patches with defined edges is a clear symptom of ring worm. If the infected area involves the scalp or beard area, then bald patches may become evident. The affected area may become itchy for periods of time. If the nails are affected, they may thicken, discolor, and finally crumble and fall off.

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Death Tanks

2007-05-25T09:45:00.001Z

There is a game on the Nintendo Wii called Tanks. It's part of a 'compilation cd' of games, you know where they give you medium short life games, but they give you 10 of them so it doesn't matter too much.

Well this game - I think I've become obsessed! Me and my mate now play it every day for 20minutes, we have to set a timer on his phone otherwise we end up on it for hours. Its ridiculous! All you do is from level to level have to blow up the other tanks, but we can't seem to get past a certain level, and it takes a while to get to that level. There are no 'extra lives' so as soon as you die you have to go back to the beginning and work up to it again. It is SO frustraitingly good! If anyone knows what I'm talking about here and knows any good tactics please let me know... If you've never played it before understand this. It's addictive - go in with your eyes open!!

We're about to have our 10 year annual review by the senior partners, and to 'celebrate' the company is offering to pay 80% of the costs of going to a
HREF='http://www.Courthouseclinics.Com/treatments/tr_tattooremoval.Asp'>laser tattoo removal clinic for any employee who has a visible tatoo! Joshua reckons his lady Mya is dead interested in using his discount. He seems happy with this... I wonder if that means she's not the most attractive of women...!?!?

Some More Ayurvedic Tips for Summer Skin Care

2007-05-17T09:14:00.001Z

Here are some more suggestions to keep your skin looking beautiful all summer long:

Milk is a cooling beverage that also supplies nutrients to your skin and helps to keep it from drying out. Drink a cup of milk every day, and also combine milk with ingredients like almond meal and rose water.
Get plenty of quality rest each night. Keep your bedroom cool, dark and comfortable and sleep on cotton or linen sheets. Get to bed early and awaken early for clear healthy skin and sparkling eyes.
When you feel stressed, angry or frustrated, your skin will show it over time as furrows and small lines and breakouts. Practice calming yoga poses or meditation to stay serene and help your body and mind manage stress. Diffuse essential oils, such as rose, sandalwood and lavender to keep mind and heart balanced. Walk on the beach or through a cool shady garden.
The sun can increase sebum production, causing your skin to look oily on occasion. When the oil combines with dirt and sweat, pores get clogged. Be meticulous about your cleansing routine, morning and night. Use a non-soap based gentle cleanser that will deep cleanse without drying out the skin. A good cleansing mix for dry/normal skin can be made with almond meal, oatmeal, milk and rosewater. For oily skin, try chickpea flour (found in Indian grocery stores) or oatmeal with yogurt and a little lemon and neem powder. If you use a toner, look for one without alcohol.

This post was submitted by Dan Polglase. Dan is the main contributor on Furrey Lens and has published many articles on glycolic acid peel uk.

Sad techinical stuff

2005-12-31T11:59:00.000Z

Sorry I had to make a post about this:
Recently I have been involved in a rather painful discussion in a forum concerning If Google Page Rank is drained by outgoing links. The thread went on for days going around in circles mainly because chrishirst refused to back up his point with any real evidence. He totally believed that:

the PR value of any page is NOT reduced by outgoing links

If you read the thread here, you can see what I'm talking about. The line of though was maddening, even though I (nixies) had back up every point with evidence he still refused to admit that thier maybe the smallest chance that the employee at google may be clever than him.

The thread hinged on this point; He could not get his head around how if the equation was based on incoming links how could outgoing links reduce the amount og Page Rank.

We repeated the same points for ages, I tried to exaplin the way the equation worked.

There are a few things that need to be understood when figuring out how the Page Rank calculation works:

The green bar shown on the toolbar is just a label given to a page depending on the group that the actual page rank falls into.
The equation is repeated multiple times.
Each time the calculation is done it is done from scratch; no prior Page rank is worked in the equation.
The calculation is done for each individual page not site.

This is how it can be though about. Bear in mind this is a simplification (also if you look at the actual equation the specifics are wrong, it designed to make it easier to understand like went you find out that everythign you learnt in GCSE physic was all a lie when you do A Level Physic).

At the begining of the equation each index page is given a value of 1; part of the pagerank is given as a vote which is devided between all the pages that it links point to. So a new page rank is calulated. Usually everyone is okay with this bit, pagerank is made up of vote from your inbound links.

This is where it gets tricky, the calculation is then repeated starting with the new values, so the pervious pagerank that has been gain on pervious calulation can be passed on. The Calulation is repeated lots of times. So since you divide your vote between the pages that you link to, if you give all your vote to pages that link back to you on the next vote (calulation) you are going to end up with more page rank than if you would have linked to a lot of pages that do not link back to you.

So that is the main point if you link out of your own website, to a website that does not link back to you. The pagerank is not coming back to your site so you are going to drain/leak/lose pagerank.

What effect page rank has on how well your site is ranked? Well that is a completely different question.

What about various groovy stuff I found whilst surfing. Just another plug for a friend of mines site a Injured and orphaned wildlife reserve. Every fancied getting some plastic surgery done? Check out these guys here

...I must go lie down now.

Mighty Boosh

2005-12-27T21:46:00.000Z

Tomorrow, I have just found out the Mighty Boosh are putting on a show at the pleasance. And the crazy thing is the price, only eight pounds They are a legend, eight pound is far too little. They can demand more that eigth meesly pounds, that student money not the kind of money you pay for the latest comedy cult wavering in a new era of comedy. It’s just insulting, I can't pay so little I will storm in their swearing like a good em and force a wad of fifties into the till. 8 pounds is a insult.

What about various killer stuff using the old googster. He's a shamless plug for a company that we work with coffee vending machines. Here is a interesting one. I've started to write about something called Home information packs! HIPS

I'm going to have to go and find some vodka. Now.

Xmas TV

2005-12-27T21:44:00.000Z

What a boring Christmas for Television, I mean it's xmas day you think they would be pulling the stops out. The main delights of today where Eastenders, Simpsons and Coronation Street. As you can see a once in a life time treat (Sarcasm).

But their was one exception Doctor Who - The Christmas Invasion. David Tennant was doctor who, I was worried he was going to be terrible at the begining he was a little wooden however he really came into his own at the end, in the last confertantion he was flawless.

To end with some webs offerings I have been looking at. Are you a Art fan, have a look at this huge collection of painting of still life. A friend of mine, Kate has been rebuilding court house clinics website. have a looks see what you think.

I'm going to have to go and find some vodka. Now.

Silly photos

2005-12-27T21:42:00.000Z

I have been routing through my photos in search of a flattering image to put on a dating site. I'm not sure which one to use though I have decided on my two favorites but I can't quite figure out which one the ladies will liek the most.I welcome any help!

or how about

Hay who am I kidding, I'm geogous in both of them It doesn't matter.

Just to complete your day how about some cool websites using the old googster. Do have a website? Check out the free articles here. This is the latest property job I have been working on H.I.P.S. (Home information packs!! they will become compulsary by law in two years).

But enought of this, I have work to do. Bye.

Futurama is to return!

2005-12-27T21:41:00.000Z

A recent interview with Mr Groaning (of Simpson fame) and David Cohen. Has revived new hope that they might have commissioned of the previously cancelled Futurama.

"Three months ago, I would have said we were going to start tomorrow" says writer Cohen. "My current estimate is that we're starting tomorrow."

After 5 season the show was canned because the television run of the show was rather unsuccessful, however the DVD sales was a completely different situation they were so huge that their was a cry to recommission even if it was just for the DVD sales. The final episode was left at a strange point with it implying that Fry's long-standing wooing of Leela was finally over. This suggested that the story was complete. However it was not that straight forward and could easily be disregarded in aid of a sequel.

Here is some other webs offerings I found by reading other blogs. My fiend Brigit looks after Migratory Birds in her own Wildlife reserve, that is completely run by donation and jobs that she can do from home. Drop in and have a look. A quick plug for a website I have done some work with recently court house cosmetic surgery.

Until next time. I leave you with a tear in my eye.

Lou Halloween party

2005-10-24T14:57:00.000Z

Well my sis, liz and frazer are decorating their flat like the Bates Motel in order to vamp it up and generally spill innards in celebration of Halloween! It should be a great bash. Me, Beth and Simon are all thinking of going. but god knows what we will wear. I was thinking something from the undead range, maybe a Ghoul, Skeleton or a Ghost. We may even go as a group, that way we wouldnt need to think that much. I'm fantasic at dressing up, but Im always worried about over doing it, it seem to be the thing at the moment, to throw fancy dress parties where everyone come dressed as the blue brothers or a movie star in a boring role and a smart suit made out of dead babies and I get thrown out.

mini-shrimplings banging down the door

2005-10-18T10:21:00.000Z

I sent out a letter to all the group saying what I did in my pervious post and amazingly everyone kinda agreed or a the most was silent. At least Diane replied she wrote:
"We never anticipated mini-shrimplings banging down our door clamouring to join the gang"
We haven't got everyoe opinion yet but we will talk more tonight. My main worry is I want them to care, I’m not to worry if she does or does not join but just letting her in because it easier than upsetting her is pathetic.
but to lighten the mood:

I got sent this by Diane what a lovely lady she is.
Last but not least some great stuff I found by reading other blogs. Does anyone want a free gmail invite? Did you ever want to buy nut and bolts on bulk? A lot of my readed do, they say hey that stuff all funny but where can I get a shed load of stainless steel nuts and bolts on the cheap. Well here. Now leave me alone.
Well I bored! Think I'll go eat something.

Playing bad cop!

2005-10-17T16:42:00.000Z

A mate of mine has asked to join our improvisation group. Today everyone else has said that it's okay with them and now everyoen is waiting for me to give the thumbs up the thing is. Everybody isn't sure she shoudl join, they want me to be the person who tells her that she can't join because none of them want to be the bad cop.

I'm not really sure what to do, I've already told them that Sam can't join. But Valeria can improvised and she has improvised with us before . The thing is I'm not sure if she is what we need. the thing is their is only one space left in the group so we don't want to waste our chance, and Valeria isn't that complimentary, she plays a very similar role to Richard and Devon they funcation as extras and add very little.

Still got my daily dose of webrubbish.

"It was a perfect marriage. She didn't want to and he couldn't."
- Spike Milligan

And too end with some new sites I found whilst surfing. For Promotinal business things why not give away cotton tea towels? Did you ever want to buy nut and bolts on bulk? A lot of my readed do, they say hey that stuff all funny but where can I get a shed load of stainless steel nuts and bolts on the cheap. Well here. Now leave me alone.

And this is me signing off!!

Marijuana connected to heart attacks

2005-09-27T23:26:00.000Z

Well apperently Health professionals have managed to find some solid proof that cannabis can do you damage. In a recent study doctors have connected taking marijuana to cardiac arrests and heart attacks!

Now it has taken them long enought. They have been trying to find evidence against it for decades and they just keep bumbling into reasons why it's healthy for you. Reduces tension and is a marvellous pain killer. We using weed as medicine for thousands of years,

Personally I don't care that much. I no longer smoke it. I haven't stopped because of legal issues or health scares but because mentally it really slows me down and I can't afford to be spaced out for a week any more .

But that not what I'm here for:

"I thought I'd begin by reading a poem by Shakespeare, but then I thought, why should I? He never reads any of mine."
- Spike Milligan

And too end with some groovy sites I've been amusing myself with. My mate Dave has quit his job as a pasta chef and is now working for first4sale a online estate agent, check it out. Are you interested in comedy? Live in London? Check out the london comedy blog.

That enought from me, goodbye.

Messing around with pictures.

2005-09-16T00:35:00.000Z

I've been having a little play with my adobe products. I discovered this picture on my travel and have been messing around with the built in filters. Cool eh

The crappy goth effect, yep that how the music fans do their avartars.

Fun with the pastel effect.

I love the Mosaic filter:

Now for some groovy sites I've been amusing myself with. Well if your bored their a huge selection of online games on lunararcade. Does anyone want a free gmail invite?

No noise on the job front.

2005-09-09T19:35:00.000Z

Today has been slow. I haven't heard back from the placement and I personally haven't fixed the email problem. I've spent the day techical writing. Ow that exciting!. Yes it was tedious and I have tons more to do, It's a fun weekend full of it.
Ow and a wedding!!

Anyway onto silliness.

A cute lil' mummy fetus! Hooray fetus!

And now for some webs offerings I found. Have you ever wanted to design your own personal rug? have a look at these ones. Does anyone want a free gmail invite?

Well I bored! Think I'll go eat something.

Today I turn over a new leaf

2005-09-08T22:31:00.000Z

Even though I haven't managed to fix the mail problem, It feels like I have had a useful day. I applied for a support role at a so law firm today, up in Near liverpool street, It's a part time contract, so I can still keep up all the other work I do but It's £14,000 + extras which would mean I could have a social life again. Other news our nieghbours they are putting up a vast annex to their property and They have a new a new labourer, a beautiful
burnette woman, she makign it really hard for me to concentrate.

Anyway onto silliness.

"Money couldn't buy you friends, but you get a better class of enemy."
- Spike Milligan

Last but not least some groovy stuff I've been amusing myself with. Another friend of mine has started a online gallery of still life. Have a look. Design your own comedy Aprons!

And now the time is near and I must face my final curtain...